Thursday, 1 October 2015
How to Recover from Domestic Abuse Together
Make a Decision Together
The absolute first thing you must do is sit down and make a decision together that you want to live a life free of violence. Your partner must agree that violence is never the solution to a problem and that he or she will never strike you again. The two of you must also talk about the steps you will take to recover together and what you will do or say to others in your life. If you have kids at home who witnessed the violence, you will need to talk with your kids about it.
Your partner should agree to attend a batterer's intervention program. These programs are now available online, which allow abusers to seek help and treatment from home. Many programs consist of six to eight weeks of classes that show batterers why abuse is wrong. Your partner will also look stress management techniques that allow him or her to find alternative ways to deal and cope with stressful situations. Some programs also come with homework that your partner will need to complete before finishing the program.
Go to Counseling
One of the best ways to recover from the domestic violence you experienced is with couples counseling. This is especially helpful if the abuse occurred more than once or if you find yourself seriously thinking about divorce or a separation. Couples counseling lets the two of your work through any problems you have together, including financial issues, infidelity and the abuse itself. Your counselor will help you find ways to cope with all those issues and ways to remind yourselves of how much you love each other. With counseling, batterer's classes and working together, you may recover from domestic abuse as a couple.